tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395301831609983730.post921746542318069699..comments2023-10-12T08:12:19.223-07:00Comments on Cancer Ain't Gonna Beat Me (and it didn't!): Session 3/12: Behind the Stage CurtainsSara Dianahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16741008340503019303noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395301831609983730.post-6132821146646070252009-05-06T10:48:00.000-07:002009-05-06T10:48:00.000-07:00Thanks for your kind words, and you are right, if ...Thanks for your kind words, and you are right, if a person has not had cancer then they dont understand what we are going through. I felt so ill last night and I lay in bed at 3am mulling things over and I felt really angry about things. Its just that I can deal with pain, scars, needles, examinations, the whole thing but I am finding the loss of my hair really difficult. I had issues about low self esteem and poor self issues for which I received councelling and its lucky I did cos where would I be now? Its great that I have you guys who understandSara Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16741008340503019303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395301831609983730.post-27143396664534706542009-05-06T07:47:00.000-07:002009-05-06T07:47:00.000-07:00Sarah...I just wanted you to know I understand and...Sarah...I just wanted you to know I understand and I think people who don't have cancer really do not understand how we feel. They can't its not theirs to deal with.<br />Cancer is huge..I think at home you do what you have to do for you. Its your comfort zone. I also think its ok to tell the person thats it or don't come back. I mean if they are not being supportive of you .Then if things get worse would they be? It takes a really special person to not say anything and consider your feelings to. <br />In your home..its ok to be you its your private space. <br />My own sister was very cruel durning radiation. Which I had to the head.I finally told her to either not say a word about how I looked or don't come back. We are self conscious enough none of us need that.<br />In your home you have the right to be you and that's that. No one had the right to tell you anything.<br />I think sometimes the emotional and mental issues of cancer are tougher then physical. I just do. Because cancer affects all three.<br />Its been a long time for me. and I don't think we get off not being scarred.<br />I m glad your writing about this cause all of us no matter what cancer we all feel it.<br />Sending hugs and prayers your way.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02553534265223827573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395301831609983730.post-9936483243162746322009-05-06T05:52:00.000-07:002009-05-06T05:52:00.000-07:00I so understand this Sara. I too would put on my ...I so understand this Sara. I too would put on my wig to go out and keep things "normal". I'd laugh when people asked me if I'd had my hair coloured or tell me how great my hair was (this was people who didn't know me from Adam). But at home? As soon as I walked through the door, the wig was peeled off and usually "tossed" onto the bench in the hall. I learned a "freedom" of being bald and unless it was chilly, left my head bare or pulled on a favourite bandana. My sons' friends became used to the bandana and even became used to the bald head. What changed for me? I accepted how good I looked bald, I learned to love that "freedom". I'm not saying it was easy or it was a piece of cake...it took time. <br /><br />As Debby said, some people have a strange reaction to the bandana...sometimes they are being kind and funny, but there is no question. As soon as people see a woman in a bandana they "know". First time I went out in public to my son's hockey game in my bandana all I got was "are you all right?" -- it was annoying to be "on display". And then I just said, "screw it" and from then on went out as I pleased and if people had that look of horror I'd just smile and remind myself it was their problem, not mine.<br /><br />Thank heavens for the sanctuary of our homes...and if people don't "get" that...remind them kindly that it is your home & your space. Sorry to go on -- it's a subject that is at the heart of every cancer story. ♥Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08271529958269038071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6395301831609983730.post-36986575374172928722009-05-06T03:41:00.000-07:002009-05-06T03:41:00.000-07:00I have taken to wearing a bandana while I'm workin...I have taken to wearing a bandana while I'm working. A wig just is not practical for field work. What amazes me is that people who <I>know</I> why I'm wearing a bandana tease me about my 'do rag' and tell me how cool I look. I just want to snarl "It's not about <I>cool</I> for pete's sake..." I feel like the first thing people look at is my head, even though it is always covered. It makes me self conscious.Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09531125606268748793noreply@blogger.com